Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Explaining How An Introverted Extrovert Works...


I'm having a total me-fest this week. I know that I'm not going to be blogging once we move and the fact that I am in a major state of limbo since we're not quit packing as we don't exactly know what home we're moving to... well, I have some time on my hands that I haven't had in quite some time. And the time has of course has given me a chance to think about life and myself a lot more than I usually do. I normally am totally fried mid-week as I've worked 3 days in a row as a waitress (an extrovert's job!) and all I want to do is catch up on cleaning the house and laundry. This week has been different. I'm not behind on anything. It's weird to have spare time. I mean, really. Weird. I almost don't know what to do with it.

I'm on my second baby blanket and it feels so nice to not have to cram handmade gifts in to my schedule to the point where they actually make me resentful my friends ever decided to get pregnant. I am actually enjoying the process of quilting again.


And my kids are cracking me up too. I took Birdie, my little potty-trainer to swim today and she announced mid-lesson she had to go to the bathroom, so I took her... and then upon returning to the pool she announced loudly, "I peed in the POTT-IE everyone!" When the entire pool didn't applaud and throw candy at her she looked at me like, "What's up with this crowd, Mom?" I mean, my kids are funny as heck... and honestly, sometimes I am just too tired to notice their hilarity. But not this week!


Recently I got to talking with the ol' husband about hanging out with this person and that person before we leave... and as I was making excuses for mainly only wanting to hang out with myself... I came up with the term: The Introverted Extrovert. I tried explaining it to him and he wasn't impressed. Well too bad! It's an awesome term! Has someone else already coined it? Say it isn't so. I haven't even googled it yet but I'm pretty sure I am a genius with the discovery that such a person exists... Because I AM THAT PERSON. And so here, I will go in to detail on what exactly an Introverted Extrovert is... because, I know... you care.

Everyone who knows me knows I'm an extrovert. It takes all of 5 seconds to figure this out. Okay 2 seconds. I am kind of loud, excited and blunt... all rolled in to one. I love telling stories, like- a lot. If Shawn tries to cut me off or change a detail I pretty much flip out- I hate story hi-jackers. I love parties (duh)... I love to dance and have no problem getting a dance floor started. I love people...unless I hate them, and then well I hate them... But I mostly love people. I will totally talk to the person in the grocery store line... I am that girl. Anyway, trust me- all signs point to EXTROVERT.

Except... except for that one little thing about preferring to hang out at home... by myself. You see, while I may love people and being social- and my amazing story-telling ways... I also LOVE my me-time. I am in love with it. I would marry it if I didn't think it would be unfaithful. I love to sew, I love to craft, I love to plug in the hot glue gun and see where it takes me... I love reading magazines and the occasional book... and I love blogging! All of these things are SOLO work people! Please don't ask if you can come over and "hang" while I blog... Noooo, that's weird! Confession: if I had the choice between going out for a GNO or crafting alone (the thought of a crafting party sounds like hell on earth by the way) I would most likely prefer staying home and make something... for someone else... as a gift...

And then giving it to them at a party- because I love parties! But I hate games. No charades, no Cranium, no other normal extrovert-y type games.

I mean... this can't be normal right?! According to the life of an extrovert: I am refueled by people! And I am, kind of... like when I want to be? So here I am once again... an anomaly to all... including myself, my introverted extrovert self...

I guess I'll go hole up in my Craft Cave... no wonder I gave it that name... Introverts love caves, don't they?
xo Party or Die xo
kenna

 

10 comments:

  1. can I be an Extroverted Introvert? because i feel you.. but i'm more introverted. but yes, i talk to strangers at the Hospital, or at a Spanish-speaking-only birthday party. but you know best, i'm a clam. and this is why we're sisters.

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    1. I love that again, we're opposites in every way... even our in our made up personality traits...

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  2. Kenna - this blog totally nailed me.....you know how I am....get me in party mode and I'm your gal...but if you even think of asking me to get out of my pj's when I've already "settled in" for the night...at 5pm....it's not gonna happen. I love my alone time too. When Alfonso comes home early from work I'm often annoyed. I mean seriously...I was just getting to enjoy time with myself. Now what? You want a cup of tea? You want the remote? Ugh. So I get it. I get you. And I DO wanna hang out before you go...TONS...but can it be at parties? Lots of them? :) I'm ready to go!

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  3. Just stumbled across this blog and thought I would add a little comment. See, your ungoogled definition of the "Introverted Extrovert" is actually the definition of a plain old Introvert. Those terms don't necessarily refer to how much time you spend with other people but where you draw your energy from. So what you are describing is the introvert scale of the personality traits. You draw your energy from being alone and recharging. That doesn't mean you don't like people, it means you need to be alone to recharge. Extroverts need to be constantly surrounded by people to feel energized. So an Extrovert will ask a friend to dinner or throw a party when they feel down, while an Introvert will throw on a movie a read a book alone when they are feeling worn down. I recommend taking a Myers-Briggs test to find where on the spectrum you lie, so that you can schedule your time according to what your mind and body need to feel healthy.
    Just a friendly tip from someone on the Internet!

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    1. Thanks for the insight! I do need to do the Myers-Briggs! I did it in college, but it's been a while...

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  4. I totally get you! There are just some times when I feel the need to take a break and spend some alone time, despite the fact that I usually get my energy from other people. I think it's a great thing that we enjoy our own company, as not everyone could do that. :) Solitude is sweet!

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    1. Yes, solitude is sweet! Glad you "get it" ;)

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  5. Stumbled upon your blog today and I can already tell I will enjoy following your work.
    p.s I Totally get it. Introverted-Extrovert. Makes PERFECT sense!

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    1. Welcome! I love when the words "perfect sense" are referring to me. Now will someone please tell the husband this?!

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